tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4305797553067506385.post1401703344245157258..comments2022-10-21T08:23:16.535-05:00Comments on My Damn Brother: Kind of reflecting back...FFMedicJuleshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04964633386760878285noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4305797553067506385.post-80879082600352766632011-03-06T08:26:09.931-06:002011-03-06T08:26:09.931-06:00I agree with Annette. He would have gotten it from...I agree with Annette. He would have gotten it from some other place. Al-Anon is a great help in letting me know that guilt is a useless emotion.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4305797553067506385.post-8208933544639394932011-03-01T09:22:23.473-06:002011-03-01T09:22:23.473-06:00JuBug, You are an awesome big sister....Love youJuBug, You are an awesome big sister....Love youAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14823970816197492375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4305797553067506385.post-27947229199870251922011-03-01T00:41:59.094-06:002011-03-01T00:41:59.094-06:00I go to Alanon and one of the first things I learn...I go to Alanon and one of the first things I learned there was the 3 C's. I didn't cause it, I can't control it and I can't cure it....but the 4th C is that I can contribute to it...by enabling them and cushioning the natural consequences of my addicts behaviors. <br /><br />If it hadn't been you, it would have been someone else buying his alcohol for him, because an alcoholic that wants to drink will find a way. Someday you may decide that you want to need an amends to him for your contribution...to set yourself free from the guilt. I have had to make many amends for paying for things when I shouldn't have, for bailing out, for preventing my daughter from hitting her own bottom....because *I* couldn't bare to watch the process. Its amazing how addiction has tentacles that reach out and wrap around everyone close by and pulls them in.Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.com