tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4305797553067506385.comments2022-10-21T08:23:16.535-05:00My Damn BrotherFFMedicJuleshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04964633386760878285noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4305797553067506385.post-31343181359768969462012-04-19T16:45:35.907-05:002012-04-19T16:45:35.907-05:00I have a friend that is struggling with Borderline...I have a friend that is struggling with Borderline Personality Disorder and he has problems similar to this...alienating people and getting into trouble because of it. He got a lot of help dealing with his BPD from http://onlineceucredit.com/edu/social-work-ceus-tdp. Maybe your brother can get some help from this site as well. I wish all the best for your brother.Paulanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4305797553067506385.post-37585727117931431052012-03-22T17:27:07.435-05:002012-03-22T17:27:07.435-05:00This is great to here that your brother is doing b...This is great to here that your brother is doing better. My husband is an alcoholic and he is also trying to sober up. It is difficult because I want to help him but it is no use unless he wants to. I wanted to share a website I came across when searching for alcohol dependency treatment: http://onlineceucredit.com/edu/social-work-ceus-gb. It offers a lot of great treatment advice and I recommend anyone still trying to overcome their alcoholism check it out. Hope this is helpful!Margaretnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4305797553067506385.post-25543757732283995862011-03-06T18:34:22.469-06:002011-03-06T18:34:22.469-06:00Glad to read this and hear about the family stress...Glad to read this and hear about the family stress level lifting. Its such a wonderful feeling! I hope your bro continues to do well and keeps writing.Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4305797553067506385.post-80879082600352766632011-03-06T08:26:09.931-06:002011-03-06T08:26:09.931-06:00I agree with Annette. He would have gotten it from...I agree with Annette. He would have gotten it from some other place. Al-Anon is a great help in letting me know that guilt is a useless emotion.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4305797553067506385.post-8208933544639394932011-03-01T09:22:23.473-06:002011-03-01T09:22:23.473-06:00JuBug, You are an awesome big sister....Love youJuBug, You are an awesome big sister....Love youAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14823970816197492375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4305797553067506385.post-27947229199870251922011-03-01T00:41:59.094-06:002011-03-01T00:41:59.094-06:00I go to Alanon and one of the first things I learn...I go to Alanon and one of the first things I learned there was the 3 C's. I didn't cause it, I can't control it and I can't cure it....but the 4th C is that I can contribute to it...by enabling them and cushioning the natural consequences of my addicts behaviors. <br /><br />If it hadn't been you, it would have been someone else buying his alcohol for him, because an alcoholic that wants to drink will find a way. Someday you may decide that you want to need an amends to him for your contribution...to set yourself free from the guilt. I have had to make many amends for paying for things when I shouldn't have, for bailing out, for preventing my daughter from hitting her own bottom....because *I* couldn't bare to watch the process. Its amazing how addiction has tentacles that reach out and wrap around everyone close by and pulls them in.Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4305797553067506385.post-71387751510169440032011-02-28T10:20:39.119-06:002011-02-28T10:20:39.119-06:00Melissa, I really sorry about you having to deal w...Melissa, I really sorry about you having to deal with that... Especially when its someone that you looked up to and respected. The one thing I learned about substance abuse, is that the person who is doing it isn't in the fault, or is wrong... Its everyone else! My brother could never take the blame for anything when he was under the influence. I could always tell my brother was drunk because he would call wanting something and would rip me up one way and down the other.. The names I got called or heard my folks get call are even worth repeating. I also saw my brother calling people for help (needing money) late in the night, including my grandparents, grandma, family who lived out of town.. It was absolutely ridiculous. I can honestly tell you right now that when my brother was cussing out family members and my parents because they wouldn't help, I swore that if he wasn't dead when we got ahold of him, I'd kill him. Obviously I wasn't but I was definitely going to ring his neck! Ya know, as a sibling it was so much easier for me to blow off my brother and let him hit rock bottom then it was for my folks. Keep your head up Melissa. Its definitely a rough road. How is your brother doing right now, if you don't mind me asking? If you ever need someone to talk to, please feel free to email me!FFMedicJuleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04964633386760878285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4305797553067506385.post-1118843634828649312011-02-27T22:35:02.742-06:002011-02-27T22:35:02.742-06:00I am also the sister of a brother with alcoholism ...I am also the sister of a brother with alcoholism as well as other heavy drug use and many relationship problems. I feel comfort reading your posts and knowing there are others that feel the same pain mixed with love as I do. For me, my brother is eight years older than me and therefore has been the biggest role model to me, but obviously not a positive one. I always remember trying to follow him around when I was little and copy his every move with the possibility of being just as cool as my big bro. When I came upon my 5th and 6th grade years, however, I began to realize my hero was more of a villain. This hit me very hard and I still struggle with watching my greatest role model ruin his life day by day.<br />There was one day I remember vividly, similar to you helping out your brother. My parents were on vacation for the week and my sister was out of the house for the night so I was home alone, probably about 16 years old. Late at night there was a phone call and when I answered, it was my drunken brother on the other end ordering me to drive downtown and pick him up from jail. I was so scared and already looking up directions. Then he ordered to talk to my sister. I told him he would have to call her cell phone because she wasn’t home, but seeing as he only had one phone call, I had to call her from my cell phone and put the two phones together to connect them. For about 5 minutes I just stood holding the phones, listening to my siblings yell back and forth at each other, my sister saying how he got himself into trouble and he would have to pay for it, while my bother continued to cuss us out and declare how horrible of sisters we were. That was the first slap in the face I received about how serious my brothers addictions were because my family was always good at hiding the truth. I will never forget the hurt, fear, and disappointment that lonely night left me with.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14792275362772228697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4305797553067506385.post-21958478857689275122011-02-24T07:33:29.600-06:002011-02-24T07:33:29.600-06:00Glad that things are going well. Drugs and alcohol...Glad that things are going well. Drugs and alcohol can have a major affect on lots of things.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4305797553067506385.post-69450252858229714652011-02-23T15:00:10.907-06:002011-02-23T15:00:10.907-06:00sounds positive, and glad we can comment now ;)sounds positive, and glad we can comment now ;)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03699870975776139552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4305797553067506385.post-38201128508160902882011-02-22T13:07:59.068-06:002011-02-22T13:07:59.068-06:00Julie, I'm also new to your blog and am very i...Julie, I'm also new to your blog and am very interested in your views as a sibling. I have a 17 year old daughter who is the sibling of an addict. Glad your brother is doing well and I will be praying for his continued recovery. KristiKristihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05641741958327206917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4305797553067506385.post-52923836560200840362011-02-21T22:45:12.993-06:002011-02-21T22:45:12.993-06:00I was just recently encouraging my other non-addic...I was just recently encouraging my other non-addict teenagers to consider writing on my blog about their perspective as a sibling of an addict. I was glad to see your blog today. I think siblings have a great deal to share and learn from one another. Blessings to you. DeirdreD.https://www.blogger.com/profile/18105480582514222531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4305797553067506385.post-65229730599999611722011-02-21T20:10:44.195-06:002011-02-21T20:10:44.195-06:00Ok, just seeing if I can comment now. Love your bl...Ok, just seeing if I can comment now. Love your blog....thanks for sharing your journey with us.Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4305797553067506385.post-66955495908734084182011-02-21T19:29:22.435-06:002011-02-21T19:29:22.435-06:00Hi Julie,
Found your blog and am looking forward ...Hi Julie,<br /><br />Found your blog and am looking forward to reading a sister's perspective.Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.com